Being in a relationship can be quite difficult. Some people even describe it as a second job. Although there can be great times with much love and laughter, there can also be disagreements and heartache. This goes for relationships and friendships. Best friends can also let you down or bring joy into your life. Here are some relationships goals that you can aspire to in order to make the most of your relationships.
Keys to any Relationship
1. Communication - you've got to establish a line of communication. If you don't have an open line of communication, then you don't have a relationship. Being honest is a part of this. Now, that doesn't mean that you have to hurt that person's feelings. For example, if you don't like what Susie is wearing, you don't have to say "girl, that looks a hot mess" but instead, "I don't think that striped sweater goes with those polka dots pants. How about the black pants instead?" See the difference? Having this line of communication build on trust.
2. Active Listening - Most people get angry and listen to respond, but not to receive what the other person is saying. Sometimes, it's best to sit back, listen, and let things marinate. The fact of the matter is, you're not always right. Sometimes, you have to think about whether what someone is telling you is true or not. Even if they aren't right, can you see where the person is coming from? On the flip side of that, when you're telling someone something, do it in a respectful manner and prepare to come with examples so that they may get a better picture of what you're saying. For example, Joe and Janice are conversing and Janice explains to Joe that he is not around as much as she would like. Instead of Joe blowing up and saying that he will come around whenever he feels like it in the heat of the moment, he listens and responds "I apologize for not being around as much as you'd like. I am very busy with work, but let me tell you my schedule at the beginning of each week and we can choose which days to spend together."
3. Acclimation - This can take a while. It also requires compromise. You're not going to have everything in common with your partner/friend. Some people are early birds, while others are night owls. Some are workaholics, while others like to turn up. Some people like eating out, while others enjoy cooking. This is where communication and active listening also come into play. Be sure to explain what you do and don't like to your partner, then be willing to compromise. You won't always get your way
4. Making Time - Lee Ann Womack once said "it's just too hard to hold on to what is never around." In other words, you've got to put in the time and work to keep a relationship like with anything else. No one's going to stick around if you're never there. Giving time is a part of developing the relationship and getting to know the other person. I, personally, lose interest fast with people who text slowly or never have the time of day to give me. Don't be that person. On the flip side, it's important to have alone time. Being around someone all the time can be smothering. Having alone time gives everyone a peace of mind, and an appreciation when the two of you get together. Don't overdo it.
5. Expectations - You can't expect perfection from someone when you're not perfect. Having expectations isn't a bad thing, but don't have unrealistic ones. Ask yourself: Am I living up to my own expectations?
6. Encouragement - Encourage your friend/partner. I love hearing "I'm proud of you" and other words of encouragement that express that I am moving in the right direction. It costs nothing to be kind and encouraging. You never know when someone will need it most. Also, be complimentary. Your friend/partner will love it.
These are just a few of many keys to success or unlocking a relationship that may work. Remember that it's going to take time and effort, so don't rush things. Follow these keys and others, and your relationship will develop nicely. I hope this helps. Thank you, Inez, for your assistance in writing this.
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